Is it better to answer these together or separately?

Separately first, then compare. Answering out loud in real time tends to produce the answer you think your partner wants to hear. Answering alone first, then sharing, tends to produce the honest one.

What if we disagree on an answer?

That's the useful part. A no from one partner and a yes from the other is information, and it doesn't need to be resolved in one conversation.

Do we have to go through all 112?

No. Pick one category that feels relevant right now. This works better as an ongoing habit than as a one-time checklist.

Is there a more private way to do this?

Yes. Are You Into turns the same idea into a private quiz: you each answer on your own device, and only the questions you both said yes or maybe to are ever shown to either of you. Nothing one-sided is revealed.

112 Yes or No Questions for Couples

A list like this lowers the stakes enough for a real conversation to start. That's the whole job it has to do.

How to actually use this list

Answer separately, then compare. Each partner picks their own answers privately, yes, no, or let's talk about it, before discussing them. It's the same idea behind a yes, no, maybe list: private first, shared second.

Don't try to get through all 112 in one sitting. Pick a category, spend fifteen minutes on it, move on. This works better as something you come back to than as a test you pass in one night.

Skipping a question is a valid answer too. If it doesn't feel relevant right now, skip it. And answers change: what's a no this year might be a let's talk about it next year.

Everyday affection

Do you like being kissed as a hello or goodbye every time?
Do you want more physical affection in daily life, not just before sex?
Do you like being touched randomly during the day?
Do you prefer cuddling before or after you've both had time to unwind?
Do you like holding hands in public?
Do you want more compliments about your body, not just your outfit?
Do you like being the little spoon?
Do you like slow mornings together before the day starts?
Do you want more eye contact during everyday conversations?
Do you like getting a massage after a long day?
Do you like giving massages as much as receiving them?
Do you want more just because texts during the day?
Do you like showering together sometimes, not just for sex?
Do you want more non-sexual touch in general?
Do you like being greeted with a hug the moment you're both home?
Do you want your partner to initiate affection first, more often?

Romance and date nights

Do you want more spontaneous dates, not just planned ones?
Do you like surprise gestures, even small ones?
Do you prefer a quiet night in over a night out?
Do you want a regular, recurring date night?
Do you like getting dressed up for each other at home?
Do you want more handwritten notes or messages?
Do you like slow dancing in the kitchen, music or not?
Do you want to plan a trip together this year?
Do you like trying a new restaurant over revisiting a favourite?
Do you want more date nights that don't involve a screen?
Do you like being surprised with a small gift for no reason?
Do you want to recreate an early date from your relationship?
Do you like it when your partner plans the whole date without asking first?
Do you want more time away from phones when you're together?
Do you like celebrating small milestones, not just anniversaries?
Do you want a weekly check-in that's just about the two of you?

Emotional intimacy and communication

Do you feel comfortable telling your partner what you need in bed?
Do you want your partner to ask more questions about your day?
Do you like talking through disagreements right away, rather than waiting?
Do you feel safe bringing up something that has been bothering you?
Do you want more check-ins about how the relationship is going overall?
Do you like it when your partner shares their fears with you?
Do you want to know more about what stresses your partner out?
Do you feel like your partner really listens during hard conversations?
Do you want more talk about what you each need to feel loved?
Do you like it when your partner asks for reassurance directly?
Do you want to talk more openly about insecurities?
Do you feel like you can say no without it becoming a whole thing?
Do you want your partner to check in after a hard conversation?
Do you like knowing exactly where you stand after a disagreement?
Do you want more how are we doing check-ins, even when nothing's wrong?
Do you feel comfortable asking your partner what they're thinking about, mid-silence?

See what you and your partner both want, privately

Adventure and new experiences

Do you want to try something new together this month?
Do you like the idea of a spontaneous weekend trip with no real plan?
Do you want to take a class together, cooking, dance, anything?
Do you like trying new things even if you might be bad at them?
Do you want to explore a new part of your own city together?
Do you like the idea of doing something a little out of your comfort zone?
Do you want to try a new physical activity together?
Do you like planning surprises for your partner?
Do you want to revisit something you both used to enjoy but stopped doing?
Do you like the idea of a yes month, saying yes to more spontaneous plans?
Do you want to try a cuisine you've never had together?
Do you like the idea of switching up your routine for a week?
Do you want to explore something new in the bedroom together?
Do you like being the one who suggests something new, or prefer your partner to?
Do you want to set a shared goal for this year?
Do you like adventure more when it's planned, or more when it's spontaneous?

Fantasy and vulnerability

Do you feel comfortable sharing a fantasy you've never said out loud?
Do you want your partner to share more of what they think about?
Do you like being asked directly what you're into, rather than having to guess?
Do you feel safe saying no to something without having to explain why?
Do you want to know what your partner finds attractive about you that they haven't said?
Do you like it when your partner brings up the harder conversation first?
Do you want more reassurance that nothing you share will be judged?
Do you feel like there's something you've been holding back from sharing?
Do you want your partner to ask more what if questions?
Do you like the idea of writing something down instead of saying it out loud first?
Do you want to know what your partner has changed their mind about over time?
Do you feel comfortable telling your partner what you don't like, not just what you do?
Do you want more it's okay if language in these conversations?
Do you like knowing your answers stay private unless you both agree to share them?
Do you want to revisit this list again in six months, to see what has changed?
Do you feel like fantasies are something to explore together, not just confess?

In the bedroom

Do you like it when your partner takes the lead?
Do you like taking the lead yourself?
Do you want more variety in when and where intimacy happens, not just at night?
Do you like slow and drawn-out more than quick and spontaneous?
Do you want more communication in the moment, not just before or after?
Do you like it when your partner tells you exactly what feels good?
Do you want to try something physically new that you haven't brought up yet?
Do you like a little roleplay or playfulness?
Do you want more focus on foreplay?
Do you like being told what your partner wants, rather than having to ask?
Do you want more spontaneity, even if it means less planning?
Do you like it when your partner checks in mid-way, just to ask how you're doing?
Do you want to explore toys or accessories together?
Do you like ending with cuddling and conversation, not falling asleep right after?
Do you want more compliments during intimacy, not just after?
Do you like keeping some things a little mysterious, rather than planning everything?

Future and commitment

Do you feel like you and your partner want the same things long-term?
Do you want to talk more about what the future actually looks like for you two?
Do you like knowing your partner's priorities might shift, and being okay with that?
Do you want to check in yearly about where the relationship is headed?
Do you feel like you know what your partner needs to feel secure?
Do you want to talk about how your intimacy needs might change over time?
Do you like the idea of revisiting old conversations as things change?
Do you feel like you can bring up big topics without it turning into a fight?
Do you want your partner to know what would make you feel more secure right now?
Do you like knowing that not every answer has to be the same forever?
Do you want to talk about what commitment actually means to each of you?
Do you feel like your relationship has room to keep changing?
Do you want to make space for these conversations more regularly, not just once?
Do you like knowing you can always come back and answer differently later?
Do you feel hopeful about where things are headed?
Do you want to end this list by picking one thing to actually talk about tonight?